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If you are like me, you grew up reading all those Cosmo surveys… “What Kind of Female Are You?” or “Are You Intimidating?”
No wonder it took me years to find and thrive in a sacred partnership with a man. And, through some painful experiences, here’s what I learned the three keys to a loving, conscious relationship are:
Relationships Are Internal
You are the biggest part of any relationship. How you think, feel and express yourself plays a major role in relationships. How do you treat yourself? Are you kind? Are you willing to start treating yourself with love and kindness? I suggest each day you pause to really listen to what you want, need and desire and then ask yourself what new choice you can make to receive those desires. When you are present with yourself, another can be present with you.
It’s hard to have a thriving relationship – one of deep reverence and love, when you don’t respect yourself. In relationships, do you try to bend and shape yourself to fit another’s needs, wants and desires? The area where most people don’t respect themselves is boundaries. We tend to say yes, when we really want to say no. Why? Because, we are afraid that if we say no, that person won’t love us. So how do you start to say no? First, you need to know you are safe. Here’s a trick: ask the Divine to fill your body with Divine safety and from there you can make a new respectful choice.
A lot of us are generous with an agenda. If I do this, then I will get this… This then creates a score keeping situation in relationships. It also generates a lot of resentment. How are you being generous with yourself? Why not start a generosity practice? Each day, do an action that shows yourself true, big-heartedness. The next step is to start being generous with the world, without trying to get a need met and at the same time knowing that everything you put out into the Universe returns to you ten-fold.
I still do a Cosmo survey every now and then, they’re fun! And, I’m so grateful that I practice these three keys because a real, loving relationship beats a survey any day.